Memories From My Early Twenties: You Haven't Done The Deed Yet?

I've always been a hopeless romantic; at least for as long as I can remember. Yes, I am one of those romance flick aficionados who would cry when after so many obstacles, the hero and heroine of the movie finally declare their love for each other and share a passionate kiss. Well, I guess I learnt at a very early age that those movies were just that - movies. Where do such perfectly calculated endings happen? Not in this world I'm sure.

Anyway, back to the heart of this post. I was 22 and in my final year as an undergraduate at the University of Ghana. I had just returned from a group discussion with one of my closest friends whom, for the sake of anonymity I will call L. L and I  resided at the same hostel and usually did a lot of things together, except when her boyfriend was around. And he was around a whole lot! This made me feel a bit lonely since I would leave them (I no dey like being third wheel). 

So, one day I decide to take a stab at making new "male" friends online. HI5 was the most popular social network at the time, and thanks to the internet cafe within the hostel, I could be online at anytime. I created a profile and began to make friends. A few happened to be students at UG and asked to hang out sometime, but I was a bit nervous and always gave excuses. That happened till I met a guy who seemed friendly and gentlemanly enough. After a couple of chats we exchanged numbers, hung out a couple of times and became very good friends.

Now, at 22 my thoughts on intimacy were quite rigid. It was a wait till marriage affair for me. Heck! I had guys call me frigid because I wouldn't let them touch me in a certain way or initiate anything that would end in a condom being unwrapped, but I was determined not to allow any boy make me weaken my resolve. I saw what some of my friends had gone through and wasn't prepared to lose my mind over a guy. Besides, despite my not-so-commendable relationship with the good Lord, that was one commandment I felt I could at least try to keep.

So, one night as I was telling one of my girlfriends about how I had turned away as this new "boy" friend tried to steal a kiss, another crazy friend of mine screams and says "Oh Enyo! Don't tell me you still haven't done the deed yet." I can still remember the look I got from the lot when I said I was still "Juana La Virgin" at 22. Did they also think I was insane or frigid? Well, they must have for one bluntly stated that I had watched too many "hit and run" movies, which had made me "scared of four legs". I still laugh anytime I hear someone use that term "four legs". Am I the only one who thinks it's quite crass? I was given an earful about how; the first time was painful, the longer I waited the worse the pain got, men wanted "sexually experienced" women to marry. Oh my! It was as if keeping the V untouched at my age was a felony. 

Looking back, I realize that I was one of the lucky ones who didn't give in to peer pressure. I took pride in being different. Why be like everyone else when you can be you. After all, it is differences that are noticed, not similarities. 

Random Things...

Hi, I know it's been ages since I last posted something on this blog. Forgive wai... I guess that is why when my friend S asked me to answer 54 random questions about myself, Iwas like why not? So, I hope you find this entertaining.

1. Who was the last person you texted?: My friend Nii. It was an accusatory whatsapp message. lol!

2. When is your birthdate?: April 5

3. Who do you want to be with right now?: Me, Myself and I

4. What sports do you play?: Hmm. I used to play volleyball but that hasn't happened in over a decade.

5. Who is the first person in your contacts?: That would be Abi

6. What is your favorite song as of the moment?: You & I by Keke Wyatt and Avant.

7. If you were stranded on an island, who do you wish to be with?: *Naughty chuckle* I would rather not say.

8. What do you feel right now?: Euphoric. The endorphins of this morning's workout are in full gear.

9 . What chocolate is your favorite?: Golden Tree Dark chocolate. What else tastes as divine?

10.  How many boyfriends/girlfriends did you have?: *Clearing throat and counting fingers* I would say three.

11. Why did you create a Blogger account?: I needed a place to vent and share my thoughts and ideas.

12 . Who is your favorite blogger?: That would be Cece of the Big Girl Blog.

13 . Where do you want to be right now?: In bed, reading my Jackie Collins novel.

14 . What do you want to be in the future?: Hopefully, the CEO of a major communications consultancy. Or a partner in one.

15 . When was the last time you cried? Yesterday, I watched a wedding proposal online and my... who knew guys like that were still out there?

16.  Are you happy?: I'm rather content.

17 . Who do you miss?: My big sister.

18 . If you were given a chance, would you like to have a different life?: There are times when I think so but, in the end... I wouldn't change a thing.

19 . What was the best thing you were given?: The Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Askaban book I received when I was 18. It was totally unexpected.

20. Who was the last person who called you?: My Dad

21. What is your favorite dish?: Jollof rice and goat meat sauce.

22. Have you ever cheated on your partner?: Definitely not!

23. Who do you spend crazy moments with?: *smiling* that would be my friend Gifty.

24..What kind of music do you listen to?: Almost anything. Jazz, Pop, R&B, Gospel.. Heck! If it's good I will listen to it!

25. Are you over your past?: Finally, yes.

26. How’s your heart?: It flutters from time to time, but good otherwise.

27. Do you like someone as of the moment?: Actually, I do

28. What would you want to say to your latest ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend?: Absolutely nothing!

29. Do you have any phobias?: Heights

30. Did you try to change for a person?: In the past, yes, and obviously it didn't work out. So I've learned that they aren't the one if they can't accept you as you are.

31. What’s the nicest thing have you given to someone?: I bought the nicest shirt I could find for a good friend of mine on his birthday.

32. Would you go back to your previous relationship?: H E L L to the definite NO. What's done is done.

33. Are you in a good or bad mood?: I'm actually in a pretty good mood.

34. Name someone you can’t live without.: My parents. Sorry but I'm giving two.

35. Describe your dream date.: One that feels like we're old friends. We get great food. Good drinks.

36. Describe your dream wedding.: This one deserves its own post oo. One thing I can definitely say is that it would be an outdoor affair.

37. How many roses did you receive last Valentine’s?: None.

38. Have you ever been kissed?: Uh huh....

39. How long is your longest relationship?: On and off: Almost 3 years. 

40. Have you ever cried over someone?: Haven't we all?

41. Do you have a grudge against anyone?: At the moment yes but it'll pass

42. Did you fall for someone you shouldn’t?: Hmmm... haven't we all?

43. Have you ever done something bad but you don’t regret?: Yes

44. Do you like getting hurt?: Seriously? Is there anyone out there who is like that? SMH

45. Does anyone hate you?: lol! Probably.

46. If you can change anything about yourself, what is it?: Erhm. My weight. Working on it actually.

47. Can you live without internet?: That can't happen.

48. What’s the song that remind you of your special someone?: When I have my special someone I will know what song it is.

49. Are you good at holding back your tears?: Yep.

50. Have you ever experienced being hysterical?: Ha! I remember those days when I was working on my thesis.

51. Have you ever sacrificed something important to you for someone you love?: Who hasn't?

52. Have you been hurt so bad that you can’t find words to explain how you feel?: Sadly, yes.

53. Do you have trust issues?: I do.

54. Do you think all the pain is worth it?: Sometimes. Pain teaches you lessons, but it also makes you very cold.

University English?

Yesterday a friend tagged me in one of his photos on facebook and what I saw shocked and saddened me. The first question I asked was "How do you mark a script like this?" The second was, "How did this person get into the University in the first place?"

See for yourselves.........

Kind courtesy of Dennis-Brook on facebook. Thanks.

Unbelievable!

KFC, What's the Fuss All About?

I've never been one who enjoys joining crazy queues just to purchase a meal. I've always had a 5min rule: If my order hasn't been taken five minutes after walking into the place, i'm out. After all, time is money and some of us actually schedule every freaking minute of our day.

So, imagine my surprise when I saw the wonderful queue at KFC on the Oxford street last Sunday. Was on my way to Smoothys and the traffic was crazy like hell. turns out that this was as a result of the large numbers of cars that couldn't seem to find parking. Didn't these people think about that when locating the eatery? Then again, that's Oxford Street for u. Frankies, Mr Biggs and even the Smoothys I was hurrying to have the same issues.

Forgive the digression for I'm not here to talk about parking. On a more serious note however, should we be rushing for such high unhealthy foods? The place was packed in a way beyond my comprehension. It's fried chicken for God's sake! The thought of how much Monosodium Glutamate each serving may contain makes me shudder.  So can someone tell me people are patient enough to spend 20 minutes waiting for a meal which in my estimation, does nothing but make you unhealthy? Or is it really cheap? Your thoughts? 

McSteamy....

Don't you just hate it when guys who are so full of themselves act like they are actually doing you a favor by chatting you up?

So, I'm walking real briskly to the salon on a hot Saturday afternoon for a new do. The plan was to kill two birds with one stone - burn calories and get an afro hairdo by dusk. Not that I enjoyed the beads of perspiration dripping down my back as I took long strides towards my destination but I guess that's why they say 'No pain, no gain'.

That was when this young man, who was supposed to be walking with a friend just interrupted my pattern with a loud hello.. I turned and he said good afternoon. I replied politely, thinking that he needed directions or something. Then he just stands there and says "Come here" like I'm a 12 yr old. I looked at him with irritation and said I was in a hurry.

All I heard him say was, "I want to talk to you and you are bluffing.... many people just want to hear my voice"....

At that, yours truly turned and said " Sorry man, but you are no McSteamy". Then as I turned and strutted away pleased with myself. I said loudly "Wanna know what McSteamy means, go watch Grey's Anatomy!".

Lol.... Some guys eh...