I happened to be having an interesting conversation via phone with the ex (who is still a very good friend) when a female friend's name comes up. So, as he asks questions about what my friend has been up to, I ask him why he is interested in the details and that was when he said: Afua, I would never date your friends. I just can't do it.
Why?, I asked. He just said, I can't do it. Now, it got me thinking....... If we are no longer in a relationship and, he happens to like my friend and that feeling is reciprocated by her, what would be stopping them from hooking up? Me? Would that be fair?
To put it plainly, I don't know how I would handle such a situation cus, repressed feelings and erased feelings are two different things and I honestly don't know where the ex stands as far as those two categories of "feelings are concerned".
Would love to know your thoughts? How would you react? Are you for or against the whole idea?
Hmmm... on one side of the coin, it wont be fair, but on the flip side hell no, now thats just wrong. So what, it means when we were together, you had a thing for my friend?
ReplyDeleteit depends. if you see the two of them together...say... kissing? would you be uncomfortable or totally ok with it.
ReplyDeleteor... if he saw you do the same with his ex... hypothetically.
if youre ok with it then youre over him so its ok... its all about being sensitive towards the other person.
I've heard that it's an unwritten code for most girls not to date friend's exes. I don't see any purpose in that. Whether I'm friends with him or not, he's an ex and free to live his life. I also won't stand in the way of my friend's happiness.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how i will react but i will probably wish them all the best or draw back from them if i can't stand it.
ReplyDeleteIt all depends. I will never stand in the way of two people but if I've not completely dealt with the break up we will not be friends. I will not be able to deal. That said, I've seen it work. I know a girl who broke up with her BF and set him up with her very close friend. Theey totally hit it off and got married and she was in their wedding.
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